"If we endure, we will also reign with him." 2 Timothy 2:12

Last Saturday was my son, Brandon's Primary One orientation at his new school, Zhenghua Primary School. As excited and kia-su parents, all of us -- my mother-in-law, my helper Evangeline, my daughter Amanda, Sam and myself, attended the orientation together.

Seeing Brandon walking towards the queue for his class "P1A" to sit, I felt so touched and happy at that moment. No words can describe the kind of feeling. Happy, yet mixed with excitment, worries, feeling of console and touched.

Tears started to roll down my cheeks, thanking God for everything He has given to us, thanking God for Brandon in my life. Though all these years have been tough, so tough that many times I almost gave it up. But I didn't. The obstacles and trials which He had put me through, has somewhat strengthened me, molding me from a weak and low self-esteem lady, to a stronger and more confident woman.

Brandon will be in Primary 1 next year, which will mean more challenges for me as a working mum. But I believe that He shall supply me with more wisdom and strength to go through the obstacles along the way. My Brandon has finally grown up and stepping into a new phase of life.

"...for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and
in health, in joy and in sorrow, to love and to cherish... as long as we both shall live."

Marriage is...

To love and to cherish one another wholeheartedly

To Laugh together, cry together

To go through all obstacles together

To standby one another in every circumstance, even at deathbed

To give him the booster when things go wrong

To trusting him in his promise

To carry the burden together and never give up

To hold the family together in unity

Love is...

Unforsaking

Undoubting

Uncontrolling

To sacrifice for one another

Willingness to give and to share

Marriage is a union. It is uniting two hearts to become one. Marriage is companionship and friendship. It is togetherness in everyway.

Marriage is understanding. It is remembering the goodness of one and forgetting the weaknesses. It is learning to be considerate in every way -- Time, feelings and desires.

Marriage is caring. It means being concern and going the extra mile to make sure our other half is taken care of.

Marriage is kindness. It is saying kind words and demonstrating what you say.

Marriage is support. It is giving support to your spouse in their endeavors, coming in and going out, in good and bad times. It is giving them moral support, helping them, assuring them that you are always there for them. It is supporting them in prayers, committing them in Lord's hand for His guidance and provision. It is being their cheerleader and encourage them when they lose faith. It is standing firm as a pillar when the dwellings are falling off.

Marriage is protecting your partner from getting hurt.

Marriage is provision. It is doing your part to ensure their needs are met. It is sharing the burden of the family together. Marriage is hard work day after day. It is going the extra mile to meet the needs of your partner even if you feel the least like it.

Marriage is sacrifice. It is giving up yourself for the one you love. It while you enjoy less. It is being selfless.

Marriage is give and take. It is taking turns and not one sided. It takes two hands to clap. Marriage is submission. It is giving the other person a chance. It is learning from one another and willingness to humble is being ready to give up your ideals and desires to satisfy your partner. It is giving and giving and giving again. It is yielding, bending, melting together. Marriage is making your partner happy down oneself.

Marriage is being open minded. It is putting ourselves in our partner's shoes to understand them and accept them. It is opening our heart to and listen.

Marriage is being there for the other in good and bad times. It is withstanding through thick and thin together, no matter how difficult the trials and tribulations may be. Marriage is being able to withstand the test. It is never to lose hope and always being there, always dependable, always ready with outstretched hands and open arms to accept the other -- to love, to comfort, to hold and to cherish. Marriage is learning to let the little things pass.

Marriage is communicating honestly and openly. It is being willing to share your heart and deepest thoughts. Marriage is talking, praying, discussing, and agreeing together. Marriage is not to allow differences from building up between you by ignoring the other but finding solutions to resolve. Marriage is uniting hand in hand, heart to heart.

Marriage is discovery. It is discovering one another over and over again. It is learning about each other. Marriage is a good sense of humor. Relaxing and enjoying each other.

Marriage is respect. Marriage is having faith in one another. It is accepting the big things and small things for who they are. It is having the revelation that you are not complete without your other half.